It won’t be long after you accept your proposal that wedding planning will be at the forefront of your mind.  While your wedding to-do list will seem immense at first, one of the first things you will have to do in your planning is choose the bridal party that will not only accompany you at the altar but will also help assist you in your wedding planning duties.  So how do you ask your friends to be such an essential part of your special day?  Try the 5 creative ways below to ask you, friends and family, to be one of your bridesmaids.

Let their fortune tell them their bridesmaid future


Making your own fortune cookies offers a great way to deliver special messages so why not use a fortune cookie to “pop” the question to your bridesmaids.  Create your own message and put them inside their fortune cookies, bring them to lunch at a Chinese restaurant or make them for dessert at a girls night with takeout. Check out these super cute cookies HERE!

Pamper them before popping the question

Treat your girls to a day at the spa and provide them with an extra special eye mask for their relaxing day.  You can embroider the message, will you be my bridesmaid?” on the back of their eye mask or provide them with an embroidered robe that says bridesmaid to present them with during their spa services.


Present them with a bridesmaid embroidered gift during a shopping trip

While everyone likes to shop, it is also an essential part of wedding planning.  So why not prep your girls for their planning duties by taking them on an afternoon shopping trip.  Arrange a pickup at one of the shops and have bridesmaid embroidered on a bag, shirt, or another item they would like and have it for them when you reach that stop. If you need to order something, we love all of the options that Mark and Graham have to offer!

Ask them in a bridal theme care package

For out of town friends and family who you would like to ask to be your bridemsaid, create a gift box to send to them that will be wedding themed and include a little note asking them to do you the honor.  You can include mini bottles of champagne, small cakes, and anything else you know they will love.  Since you can’t be there in person to ask, make sure to include a nice note letting them know why they have been chosen for such an honor. Etsy is a great place to get started. Here is the link for the one below:


Give them each a scrapbook documenting your friendship



Find some great and memorable pictures of yourself and each potential bridesmaid.  Make a scrapbook or photo book personalized for each bridesmaid and include a special note on the final page before asking them to join you as part of your bridal party on your big day.

Asking your friends and family to be a part of your big day can be as important and as exciting as all the other aspects of planning for your wedding.  Choosing a creative way to ask them to be your bridesmaid will not only make it special for you but will make them feel special and honored to be chosen as well.